Such energised confusion at this time! Gender issues, and people warring verbally over gender & gender related topics.
My role is to explain, bring clarity and redefine where needed. Many humans are at this time on the planet feeling lost and it is manifesting in all manner of ways. Historically we have been living in ignorance of what the human being actually is, but this does not give us license to make it all up. There are rules to this Game called Life. Universal Rules and we operate under Universal Law.
A man & a woman in form are very different aside from genitalia. A woman is an energy being and a cyclic being by design, among other things not relevant to this topic. Man by design is an energy being and more a day-by day-by day-by day being by design, so he can act on his feet, in the moment focusing to the maximum on what is immediately before him. He is also comprised of many other components not relevant to this topic. And with respect to their subtle energy bodies, a man & woman’s energy wheels or chakras rotate in different directions.
These facts are why some traditional cultures always had the woman make the final decisions, because simply by design women can determine consequence far more easily, given them by their cyclic perspective ( every 21 – 28 days cycles of change).
Traditionally – and remaining in some of our remaining indigenous cultures – distinct differences in our genders were celebrated with rituals and ‘rights of passage.’ In some creative, forward thinking areas currently, new groups have emerged to fill this void with supportive Men’s & Women’s celebratory & guiding meet ups. I cannot recommend them more strongly.
The Sunshine Coast hinterland of Queensland, Australia had a wonderful variety of such regular meet ups with trainings & insights from traditional wisdom available. Arizona U. S also has such teachings and groups available, and I am sure ‘googling’ will help anyone find the one closest to them in their country and language.
It takes a smart individual to make it through a transitioning of gender. It takes an individual who has a level of discomfort as their norm, and a familiarity with feeling uncomfortable.
In the current transgender words arguing, I am seeing people directing outwards, inner discomfort. I am seeing intellectual bullying of people around them who are not changing to make them feel better.
Healing to feel comfortable, needs to come from within. Those who have felt discomfort their entire lives need to go inward, and do the inner work, to not be constantly attracting dicomfort. I feel the projecting outwards, of feelings of discomfort, is responsible for much of the current social media ‘warring’.
The Law of Attraction is a real Universal Law. Finding the peace inside, and not focussing on changing humanity around you, so that you yourself feel better in your own self identity, needs to occur prior to outward societal change.
The current arguing, confusion and angst I am seeing, is largely about only two things : 1. feelings & 2. vocabulary.
Anyone who is led by their feelings – and feelings DO govern the Human Being – and decides to alter themselves so they feel better because they ‘feel ‘ like they were born in the wrong body’ or feel they are really a man in the body of a woman or vice versa, of course can recognise that somebody else may feel ‘like a woman who does not want to share a woman’s space, with somebody who wasn’t born a woman’.
BOTH sets of feelings are equally valid.
It is not “I think therefore I am.’ It is I feel therefore I am.
To ridicule and abuse and otherwise purposefully cause discomfort to anyone, because of how they feel, is historically the path of ignorance. It is the path of insufficient vocabulary to do anything otherwise, to say anything better. No one chooses the path of ridicule,abuse or defamation, who has the vocabulary to do better, and to come into an understanding.
I refer specifically to the people expressing their feelings, being called “Transgender phobe”. This is an inaccurate statement. A phobia is a fear.. It is ‘name-calling’ for want of a better thing to say. Name-calling comes from insufficient vocabulary do to otherwise. Vocabulary extends our very reasoning ability, within our brain, so it is very possible these ‘name-callers’ have no further insight into there being another route that leads to discussion & understanding. But some do., And this, is just a discussion about everyone having their feelings respected, to ensure decisions are made to reflect this.
We Humans are blessed with language ability and there is nothing that we cannot make better through language use.
I LOVE diversity – anyone who knows me personally or reads me knows this. I spent much of my childhood/teen/early adult years in all manner of alternativedom 😉 creative dress / hairstyles and I support and love us all – all beings, all Earth’s creatures & elements.
BUT I strongly feel I do not want anyone who was a man at any time in his / now her life, sharing “woman space’ with me. Just as I respect these men/ transpeople for wanting to live as they perceive & believe a woman feels like, I also am to be respected for my feelings. I certainly deserve to be able to choose to be in an all woman space, free from men being there.
I personally – and like many women who have made it through all the years of girlhood & puberty and so on, have experienced enough violation, abuse, perving, uncomfortable stares, sexual harassment & abuse, to want, deserve and need to know that any spaces I may occupy in a vulnerable condition deemed safe spaces, are.
It is not uncommon for many to have received no sex education to speak of, no understanding of behaviours or their own body parts! My mother gave no further details to me than referring to that place one time only as “Between your legs. ”
It is all too common for a woman to have experienced unwanted harassment / abuse at some earlier point. All women, needing to undress, or be vulnerable in another way that has a space for them to feel safer in – names aside at this point – need a safe space to remain. All of us can have our safe spaces. No need to take them from another group of people.
Traditionally a Woman’s Space was Sacred and it needs to remain sacred. This is a basic human requirement to have these sacred safe spaces. Sacred Men Space. Sacred Women Space. There is no reason these need to be broken down…only the creation of more sacred spaces is needed.
There are many reasons someone may say they do not identify with their birth gender:
~It may be genuinely biological, it may be a passing phase that is a valid stage requiring processing, it may be a passing trend caught up in a community feel, it may be part of a mental illness, it may be part of an emotional illness, it may be blatant deception, it may be – for those readers who have further spiritual awareness – that this is in fact the first life as the birth gender, more familiar to be the other, and it is their soul’s path for greater development, to be that particular gender this life.
I have known numerous people identifying as LBGTQ, in my life. I always aim to relate to someone as a soul, so I really don’t mind what else is going on in their life, as long as noone & nothing is being harmed. They include my own gay cousin I met as a small child, a twin sharing a womb with his sister, so seems easily biologically explained to me. I determined a few chose what they perceived as an easier lifestyle for them, while still carrying emotional burdens from unresolved trauma, very sensitive souls they were too. A couple of others were sexually active with the same sex ‘just because’ seeing no reason not to as it seemed common enough to do in the media. A bi woman friend was making a clear lifestyle choice when she chose to settledown with her girlfriend. And one, a drag queen neighbour, was the foulest mouthed woman abuser in his every day, as he was on stage.
It is a road of healing, discovery and challenge when we join with our opposite sex, and the rampart misunderstanding of what the human being is, and what being a man and woman really is, makes identifying with someone of the same sex that more appealing and familiar also.
“WOMAN” is actually WOMB MAN, made short. Anyone who did have a womb – can choose to be called a woman / IS a woman.
A man ‘who feels like his idea of what a woman may feel like” Which may be close to what a woman feels like, or extremely distant, given the many aforementioned reasons. I suggest Fe-man feman. This is a word not yet taken by any other meaning. Under no circumstances- an all the aforementioned reasons, is ‘Woman’ accurate. Feman is a good word, a nice word, pleasant to express and hear, without any negative connotation I am aware of, and accurate.
FE-MAN for Female Man
Perhaps someone changing from woman to man would prefer this category also. I am open to suggestions to this also, but ‘Man’ is not accurate in all situations for them. It may be enough in some, but not all.
With regard to toilets :
I think the time of sex-divided. communal toilets may be a thing of the past. I suggest lovely, new, clean ones with all facilities – alongside the disability single door, a number of single door ones with every facility – so our privates can be private. 😉 No one need know if you choose the urinal or the porcelain seat. Or whatever equivalent in different countries/cultures.
There are many advantages to having no more foyer / communal space, for safety reasons, hygiene reasons. in addition to the privacy. I for one, many times have wished I could use the disabled one, without feeling I may be inconveniencing anyone. Nearly always it has seemed more appealing to me, when walking passed. glancing in on a vacant one. 😉
I really hope this helps. After all, we all only want to feel safe, respected, happy and comfortable, as the incredible and diverse Human Beings we are. 🙂