Another Way Of Being.

There is a way of being, that has you choose your thoughts when you need them, and has the most useful information contained by you, arise effortlessly, when you need it.

There is a way of being, that enhances all of your senses, to a degree that continues to improve, surprising and delighting you, by becoming more enhanced a you live your life.

Life gets better and better.  As it should be, and as is the way.  Becoming aware of this, is the way to begin to receive it.  Learning tips of self mastery, is the way to assure it, as you awaken and secure within your body, the reliable ‘hardwiring’ to make it so.

Any other way seems missing of the point really.  Do we not want to be excellent in our design?  Certainly there are reasons many of us can give as to why we do not make the most of our lives.  If we can be so much more than we are being, if we can be so much more capable than we already are, do we not owe it to ourselves – or at least our children – to find out how so? 

I was enabled a freshness and a completely unbias view of life and humanity from my start in life.  There was no where I trusted, no one with whom I felt safe, so all information that came to me from any source, needed to be assessed by me, on it’s merits alone. 

Over the years I have found what a tremendous advantage this was, as I am drawn naturally to what is good for me, and what brings me joy.  And now, what has me wanting to share guaranteed life maximising guidelines with the rest of my species!   I am enjoying bringing these writings to you! : )

 

What happens when we cry? / What’s crying about?

  • why humans cry
  • how it occurs
  • how I know

My father left me in the ‘crying room’ of a British childcare facility, saying to me in a voice with a strong Hungarian accent, and a gentle tone “do not cry my darling girl or I will cry”.

I was left on a low wooden frame bed, maybe half a foot from the floor, that just had hessian stretched over it.   They were lined up in rows, and the window had more hessian cloth over it to keep the room dark.  There was nothing else in it.

There was nothing else to do except to lie on the bed and cry.  The door was ajar and you were only able to leave if you would not cry.  If you ‘wanted’ to cry you had to return to the room.  I can recall feeling good about myself when I hadn’t needed to return to it for a while.

Some of us were very small.  So small, that we had to also wash and dry our knees from crawling, in addition to our hands, before we got a meal.  I can recall my parents arguing over my placement there, and it ending with my mother’s instruction to my father in a harsh, ordering, conclusive tone, “she will get used to it. ”

The purpose of our tears are to cool the face, keep our internal temperature down, diffuse our energy and to protect precious organs from overheating/over stressing.   Internal energy rises in us, in order to leave us via expression from our mouths.  Our chi/ki/prana/subtle or inner energy carries with it, the frequencies of our distressful feeling.

When energy is strong enough/’loaded’/ ‘heated’/’emotive’,  as to rise quickly or forcefully into our head, our body’s reaction is to protect our precious head extremity from over heating, or becoming over laden with energy.

Our head contains our vulnerable eyes and brain, and our design assists in preventing rising temperatures, and in neutralising the effect of energy building up, so the energy is released in the form of sound frequencies that can accompany the tears in the form of ‘sobbing’.

How perfect that our energy at its most intense, needs to pass through a fixture that has available to it, fluid to keep the eyes clean.  This fluid – contained in ‘tear ducts’, are our eyes’ first defence against foreign particles that may come into contact with the outer eye.  We naturally weep and the foreign particle is carried out from obstructing our view, to a corner of our eye for easier removal, if not flushed from the eye completely.

These tear-ducts serve a dual purpose and are activated when we need to release energy at the intensity that may be problematic for any of the rest of our being/body/self.   Our breathing can get heaved, we can get discomfort in our diaphragm, we can get aching  jaws or a headache from a frowned forehead. It is important that we have a way or protect our eyes and by crying we also assist energetic release from us, to cool down what we exacerbate from our moving energy.

The sound that we release when we cry, is in itself, is a vital release of energy that we no longer need, or want to contain, within our being. Screaming and laughing are included in this and I go into these in another writing.  The heaving, or spasming that happens over our rib-cage, enables stuck grief from past hurts to dislodge and to join the rest of the grief energy as it is released form you.

My experiences with crying continued as I was encouraged by my mother to do more of it.  “Go to your room and have a good cry about it”  she would say with a disturbing smile.   Or “go and have a good blubber about it”,  blubber being a derogatory English word referring to crying that I had heard my grandfather use before her.

I grew to enjoy my crying time – well, it’s all relative isn’t it;)- or at least the way I felt when I did it.  It was the only time I felt creatively free to express myself completely.  There was no one standing over me ordering me how to do it, what position to be in, or how to sound.  There was no one berating me for not being able to it “right” or “normally”, or “as was ordered”.   This was extremely refreshing for me.

It was the time I felt the most relaxed in the family home.  I was usually left undisturbed, so felt safer then, and what had happened to cause my crying usually meant I was going to be unhurt for while.  It was now up to me to make myself feel better.  And, this is precisely what crying enables us.  It also allows us to shape our emotional body, which in turn affects our receptivity, and our reaction to, our surroundings.

Some countries have always accepted emotional expression as a natural part of being us.  Wailing or loud grief sounds are expected in some cultures and language groups, to mourn a passing of  a loved one for example.

It has been traditionally a very English habit to keep “stiff upper lip” or not to express what we are naturally feeling.  Non recognition of our feelings is an enormous contributing cause of our global health crisis, and the English speaking population was notoriously very unhealthy historically.

It became very ‘proper’ in the English speaking world at one time, to not resemble anything natural, and to ‘behave in appropriate particular predetermined ways’ rather than to react naturally to something.   This was refered to as ‘good manners’ and ‘to show good breeding’, also ‘gentleman’ and ‘lady’ behaviour.

Being polite and courteous is one thing, and these are a natural part of showing respect, that is a quintessentially human need, but to contort natural behaviours so that they are set or rehearsed, and disconnected from any present stimuli, is ridiculous to say the least!

As I became skilled at crying, screaming it out, allowing as much frustration and pain to leave in every heave, in time, even my crying was taken from me, with a mean toned order to “stop your crying….the neighbours will hear you.”

Not being allowed to cry, then led to ‘depression’ or a feeling of complete disconnected numbness, as I literally became smothered or had all my vitality suffocated, by my own unexpressed ‘suffering’ energy.  Crying is a natural and healthy human reaction to stimuli, and we have no reason to feel uncomfortable if we understand it’s benefits and purpose.

I had discovered that sometimes sounds would just want to come out without tears when I was crying, sounds that I was not consciously shaping or ‘making’, but were just coming out of me.  Sounds that I did not even know was possible to make.

I was not allowed to make these either after a while and would receive a “Stop that noise, what’s wrong with you now child?  But I had experienced them, as a completely natural, spontaneous event.

I gave a sound healing demonstration at the Woodford Folk Festival, Sunshine Coast Hinterland, Australia, and in Inspiral Lounge, Camden Town, London, and for each of these times I went into detail specifically how my experiences of crying, had led to my knowledge of sound release.   And particularly of the benefits of allowing whatever sounds to leave us, that need to at the time, without any judgement of ours imposed upon them or our release process.

When we cry, we do not usually monitor ourselves critically like we may do when we sing or speak – so it really can be the only time we allow unconscious control of sound to emerge from us.  I doubt there has been a time when you have gone “Oh…that wasn’t a very good sounding cry!”   We tend to ‘let go’ and to allow whatever sound, that wants to come out of us, to come.  This is also precisely the sound that needs to leave us to bring about the most healing!

If only we would ‘let go’ more, in all aspects of life!

Stimuli, response.  Stimuli, response.  Stimuli, response.

Trust that your being gives you the response that you require for energetic maintenance. 

We, as human beings, are a naturally occurring organism, with natural needs.

Stimuli, cry.  Stimuli, laugh.  Stimuli, make love.  Stimuli, response. : )

I Think Therefore I Am? No.

  • correction of an historical human error that holds us back.

I feel,  I think,  I speak,  I create, therefore I am.

This is actually far more accurate, than the original ‘I think therefore I am’ if we must condense us down to one sentence at all.;)

So much has been based upon the ‘”I think” therefore I am’ claim,  for me to comment on its correction.

I feel.  We had it only partly right.  It is our feelings – or emotional body – that governs our thought process. We feel first, and what we are feeling, will largely – if not solely – determine what we are going to think of.

I speak.  For me, it was my not producing a sound, that made my mother feel more comfortable with my existence.  It was when I began to make sounds that were starting to be speech, that she made plans for my demise.  For me to speak, made me undeniably exist.

Our sound is our very life essence, and our greatest creative tool.  Our voice is our soul and our life force carried on our breath, as it passes through the unique instrument that we are.  The internals of our face and skull, I liken to the inside of a shell that we can blow into on the beach.

I create.  ‘To be Human is to create’ absolutely.  We do our creating from our feelings, and our feelings determine what we will think of creating.  We create our lives with our speech from our word choice and speech habit.  We create our world around us from our opposable thumb ability enabling us dexterity and productivity with our hands.

We create our world around us, according to how we feel.  It is not what happens to us, but how we feel about it, that will be the determiner on everything that we do.  How we are able to manage our feelings will be the determiner of life events and life on earth. : )

There Is No Such Thing As ‘Race’, We Are ‘Breeds’.

  • Why the concept ‘race’ does not suit human being as a classification word
  • Why ‘breed’ works better.
  • Why we are not even divided by language.

There is no such thing as ‘races’ of people.  We are breeds within the human species, and our breed is defined mostly by our Language.

There was never any such thing as ‘Race’ or ‘Human Race’, this was just an overused word that year in Victorian vocabulary deficient English. Seriously.
The only race that was really on was the race for ‘new’ lands, albeit someone else’s;) between Britain and France mostly, as the solution-seeking creativity to assist poverty, misery, and ill-health problems. And it was on this desperate race, the word ‘race’ was then always referred to. : )

The idea of dividing us into four, was a ridiculously simplistic bit of solution-seeking-creativity by a not very bright Britain at the time.;)

We`are still -most of us-largely living from the imagination of 18th century Britain!  There is no where on Earth, that is unaffected by it.

Putting themselves at the top of a list, that ranked Human Beings according to which ‘race’ was ‘superior’, was yet another bit of solution-seeking-creativity, to be able to better their lot at the expense of the ‘inferior’.

We still have not, recognised all of our strengths and all of our qualities.  We are living as a smidgen of ourselves to a life design that was never wise!  What we don’t know though….we don’t know.. : (

This makes as much sense to me, as going along to the R.S.P.C.A, and  regrouping  all of the dogs according to whether they are big, small, spotty or fluffy!;)

“From now on Jess, you are not a labrador, and you are not a chihuahua Sasha, and you over there, Zep, you are not a cattledog.  Francois, you are not a pomeranian either, you are all to be known only as ‘RSPCA dogs, and divided into 4 groups in relation to your size and hair style'”.  Honestly!;)  But who do we choose to guide us across the road, the chihuahua or the labrador?

Language does not divide us…vocabularly does. 

It is our feelings that determine our thoughts.  It is then our thoughts that determine our words.

We are bonded by our healing, and our living from the heart.  All Human Beings living from a state of love, have the same vocabulary,or the same word choice, whatever the language.  Lets do it : )

Holding Bad Feelings That Are Spoiling Your Enjoyment Of Life? Tips To Let Them Go!

  • managing our feelings
  • how and why our feelings affect us
  • what we can do to improve how we feel

Some folk wear bad feelings like they are their favourite coat;)  Or have them held tightly around them constantly like a doona/duvet so they are unable to freshly enjoy anything….

Hey I love this “get the attitude of gratitude!” or “the gratitude attitude!”  I saw the two words together on a video and I had never noticed how similar they are.  I think we can really popularize that – sounds kinda cool!   Or just “the attitude;)” when folk ‘get it”;)

Joy and gratitude are our natural state.  It is completely irrelevant how much healing we still feel we need to do, at any stage of our life, by however horrific an incident!

We are not the same thing as our feelings at all, yet too many of us are holding a bad feeling around ourselves like it is our doona/duvet, or wearing it everywhere like our favourite clothing.  Why?  No one has explained feeling management most likely.

People only ‘have problems’ because they are carrying them around with them the whole time.  We don’t need to do this.  We can leave them at home/the office/the garage til we’ve dealt with them, can’t we?

Feelings are ours to give us information.  What am I feeling at this time?  Oh ok.  What do I need to do?  Right. Thanks.

Then, let it go.  Returning to a gratitude state, where joy,wonder and delight are easy to experience.  Where sparking an interest in something is not a chore, but a regularly occurring occasion.

Our feelings reside as part of our energy being – in one of the outer energetic fields that surround our physical body.  When you are done ‘reading’ the feeling that is uppermost for you at that time, visualize it returning to an outer state of you, perhaps a couple of metres outside of you. 

It will sit in an invisible cloud on all sides of you, until it does not need to give you any further information, or until you clear it, if it holds for you unresolved  issues.  It is called our ’emotional body’.

It is completely separate from you.  It is for you.   You are its manager/mistress.  You do not need to be in consultation with it continuously.  Your job is to keep yourself in a self loving state of health and happiness. 

Balance between joyful episodes, achievement episodes, and time spent reading feelings and thoughts will do this.To spend all your time with your feelings, has you neglect other areas of self.

As joy is our natural state, and as the universe does not do ‘spaces’ , it is guaranteed that any bad, miserable, depressive, hurt, or fearful feelings you had stuck, will be replaced with joy/light!  I am able to feel/see it happen.

It is a given.  There is nothing you can do to stop it occurring!   Light will take the place of the dark.  The joy registers universally as white light frequencies, the misery as non light.  Get it?  So doo-oo-oo it!;)        :  )

Near-Death Insight.

In ‘ Fast-track to joy’, I shared a fab trick I learnt from a near-death experience.  I feel strongly to share some other obvious wisdom from these throughout the next week.

A near-death experience can highlight like no other, the perspective ands insights that we are oblivious to, when we are on the earth plane.

There are many people who have also experienced them, who are led to different paths, from where they focussed their time and energy before.

A ‘near-death experience, or spending time in the ‘after ether’;), can be enormously awakening,and refreshing, and I would like everyone here to be able to share in the insight gained! : )

Fast-track to Joy!

  • A quick tip / ‘how-to’ emotionally detach from what may be bothering you, to refreshen your life experience/day!

Here’s a jo/neat trick I learnt from a near-death experience.

Imagine you are another spirit, that has just landed in your body for the day.  You are gone, you have vacated your life for this day.

Remember that what is imagined by you, is just as real for your psyche/consciousness, as if it were really occurring.

Imagine the other spirit, is taking in’ who’ they need to be – or pass themselves off as – to not arouse suspicion.;)    Take a look around you, look at your hands as though you are looking at them for the first time.

Such as : Ok…so you are in this family, right…..in this house, ok…..in that  job, uh-huh.  Oh and with that responsibility, got it…….that dog is yours….etc

This spirit gets opportunity to be here on Earth, only by taking on you life, and only for a day.

They are super-thrilled for this opportunity!  They do not care whose body or life they have access to, in order to be here!

Nothing that happened before this time exists.

Notice how you feel.

This feeling, is the most similar that I can describe, for what happens in one of the stages we go through, after we experience sudden and/or unexpected death.  Many others, who also have experienced near-death, can report the same thing.

It gives us the ability to look on our own lives with absolute clarity and perspective.  All emotional attachment  leaves us during this time.

I still consider this to be one of the greatest lessons from my near-death experiences, and I am grateful I can enter into this knowing in a second flat.;)

So, go ahead!  Imagine you have just arrived here on earth, borrowing your body for a day!   Feel the difference.  Feel the detachment you may have.  Feel and notice the freshness or gained enthusiasm you may have.

Take advantage of it to the hilt!  You are using wisdom to maximise your life experience…as you are meant to do!  If need be, do it everyday. : )

The cult British comedy Red Dwarf, ( I was a huge fan!)  had an episode called Body Swap, and if you have seen that, you’d be on track and all the easier for your imagining! : )

All About An Apology.

  • Apology defined
  • Why they work
  • Apologies as energy
  • How to maximize an apology
  • Tips to make speaking one easy

An apology by way of saying “I am sorry” is a gift of energy, to someone who has received an energetic injury.

An energetic injury, or anything that has caused hurt or pain emotionally, requires energy to heal.   This energy comes from our own being, but can be dramatically assisted by energy from another, or may be delayed if none is forthcoming when it is perceived required, or known how it would assist.

Every time we see,  hear, or hear-of, the individual who has caused us harm, it is a drain on our energy if any feelings arise that  need to be dealt with.  A “sorry” or an apology removes this from happening, as we are able to remove ‘the warning’ of them from our being.

It is our wisdom, by way of memory associations, that gives us reminders of who to keep away from.  Our whole organism assists us in keeping ourselves well.

The word ‘apology’ as a descriptive statement after the fact.  To say “I apologize’ is not actually itself an apology at all”  An apology is an expression of regret for any action that caused someone to be energetically injured.

“I am sorry for all and any of my actions that have caused you harm( and I love you).” is wording that I suggest, to maximise the healing strength of this much needed and FREE energetic wonder! : )

Energetic responsibility is all an apology is.  Some cultures/language groups are able to make apologies freely available.  Others guard them as though their very sense of self worth depended upon them never needing to say the word “sorry”!

Unfortunately due to complication from economic responsibility that may result from lawsuits, compensation claims, and the like, recognition that we require verbal sound frequencies from just hearing the word “sorry” has not been realized.

I find that my habit of using the word “sorry” as well as “pardon” when I miss what someone has said, had an enormous effect on my own healing, as in my own family no one said the word.  My mother even had to go so far as to lie to insist that what had occurred – that required her to say sorry – hadn’t even happened!!

Please release yourself from any intellectual judgement that may come to you, and try saying it as often as needed.

I found it a useful technique in my own healing to at first use the word “sorry” in place of “pardon” when I misheard or missed what another had said.  “Sorry” was so not used in my family home, that my mother even had to deny the occurrence of what had happened that required her to apologize in the first place!

All it is, is energetic responsibility.  We are energetic beings, and it is as helpful and as healing to say, for our own learning needs and personal growth, as for the one who needs to hear it.  : )

Time For Energetic Realisation!

  • Introduction to human beings as energy
  • Introduction to historical influences affecting our incorrect viewpoint, and dismissal of feelings
  • Introduction to how men and women differ

Is a change to knowing ourselves as an energetic organism so hard?  I think not and feel not!  We have only had a vague dismissal of it as we are all so fundamentally human, us Human Beings…;)

Though feelings supposedly didn’t exist, they are one of the most important descriptions to add to a court case when it is being heard.

We all love a love story, and love is a feeling…  But feelings having ‘no tool by which they could be measured’, and an emphasis on a patriarchal and logical ‘thinking’ dominated society, put feelings out of context in Britain.  It is important to note, that the English language, trails behind the others, in terms of energetic realisation and in vocabulary of it.

Historically women and folk of other cultures, were allowed a more active and acknowledged role  in the English man’s societal structure, but not one that contributed, or brought any changes to, its structure, to incorporate a more appropriate and balanced view of life.

There was not the knowledge at that time of the roles of each of our sex, or the qualities and strengths offered by those from other cultures/language groups.

Woman were allowed consideration and given the vote, as they proved themselves to be able to do some things, as well as a man. Still to this day, a woman is determined to be that which a patrichal society declares her to be capable of.

She is yet to be truly appreciated for what she herself is, by society, that a man is not.  This is precisely the balance and consideration that our life giving planet requires.  We as human kind are part of the greater energetic being that is the organism, Earth, and we also have a guardianship role.

Both sexes from other cultures/language groups, similarly, were declared capable enough to be incoorporated into English man’s societal structure, and given the vote, after proving that they could do some things as well as an Englishman.

Yet songs about love are as popular today as they were when the foundations of our society was being formed.   Feelings are something that we have let drive us and leed us astray;) be we Man Woman, Englishman or otherwise.

There came a distinct time in political history, when it was actually considered that the English man ‘had it sorted’, and there were no further changes to the structure and organisation of the political party system, from then on.  Parties and policies changed but the organisation did not.

Many years later only, women and both sexes from other cultures and language groups were allowed involvement.  As a woman it is plainly obvious to me that the system was lacking from the very beginning.

As a woman it is easy for me to see how much has led to the situations we have happening at the moment.  With all due respect to my fellow-man – I am a lover of men!- a woman’s imput is needed, to ensure the longterm health and wellbeing of all concerned.

A man’s focussed attention ability and problem solving is very compartmentalized.  He likes, and requires, things to be dealt with individually, singularly, and in a given set form and structure.  Life is not like that however.

Life needs Man to use exactly the skills that he has, in consultation with Woman.  She can, can far more easily:

1.  determine consequence, a woman can naturally hold a larger perspective and picture for consideration.

She is naturally able to easily hold together what is harvesting where and when, is connected to the earth and moon rhythms and is herself a cyclic being, altering and changing according to where she is in her bleeding rhythm.  Man is structurally, and necessarily, a day by day by day being.

2.   a woman has healing knowledge available to her, to keep the community in health, as well as greater ease at receiving ancestral wisdom from her intuition and her secondary connection to the light, that comes from her womb space.

3. a woman does not have playing inside her the very drives that can prevent a man from considering the best outcome for all concerned.

It is a man’s role to be hardwired to get what he can for himself and his, as he is the protector.  A woman is hardwired to care for those around her, as she is the nurturer.  Man is thinking dominant, woman is feeling dominant.  Balance is key for survival.

In another writing I specifically name the time in British history and explain in more detail, to demonstrate the inadequacies of the structure that our own party system is based upon.  I do so simply to show that there is no need to be holding onto it.  I do so to show that we can do much better now.

Now, we have the education and literacy and knowledge spread across so many people and counties, that was not available to the ones who formed the structure we are living by.  It would be so easy to create, and to implement, a system that truly honours us as the amazing species that we are, and that can lead us to grow and thrive.

A consequence of much that has gone before, is that we have many living in the bodies of women as what I term ‘female men’.  This is only because they and their families and communities have not yet had the opportunity and learning to embrace ‘woman’ and allowed comfortably for her development.

Fortunately we have a huge feminine wisdom movement growing in strength internationally.  There is no need for anyone to fear the development of a woman being all that she is needed to be.  Woman is the lover of men, and I can assure all men, that when they have experienced a woman, they will never want a ‘female man’ ever again!

Let’s leave behind that which is seeing us decline.  It is stupid and ignorant not to do so, and a whole lot more fun to see us and our planet progress to thrive!  As we are meant to do.  As is completely possible to do! : )

All About Joy!

 

“A good laugh and a long sleep are the best cures in the doctor’s book.”

~ Irish Proverb.

 

I love this!  Here is basic true human wisdom speaking of JOY again!  Eat, sleep, work, play – gives us all we need. Play and pleasuring are serious requirements. 😉

 

Give yourself a dose of joy, as efficiently as you have a meal or a rest. Find what it is for you, find as many as you want. 🙂

Joy is essential as it refreshes us and energies us. It is a feeling that lifts us and lightens us inside, and we operate at our best and most efficient as an organism, in this state.

It is a feeling that requires no effort, gives us only energetic gain, and we experience it from whatever delights us personally. This could be from any pleasant activity or from something simply perceived or observed that we find beautiful or delightful.

We require joy, to balance that which does take effort during the day, such as that enormous pile of dishes, laundry, paperwork, mowing, building….anything not joyful. 😉

We need joy to counteract the drain on our energy of anything that occurred during the day, be it something hurtful, unpleasant or tedious. We need joy to balance that which may require energy to remove from us, such as grief, anger or any emotional pain release.

Regular joy, enables the activation of healing episodes. Allowing yourself to express stuck energies, brings about the creation for the potential for even further joy to be held within. The space we make, can be then taken by joy. The joy is held within our being, in the form of white light frequencies.

When we are experiencing joy, our eyes open wider, our forehead raise and we open within our central energetic channel, so the energy can all flow, with easier access to and from our heart chakra. So we can maximize our experience and take more of it in.

We may feel lighter physically, we may find moving effortless, or we may move faster. We may experience or ‘see’ joy or light enter us in the form of an internal lightning, particularly if we are in a high meditative state.

Joy only begets joy. Our joy causes joy in everyone around us and experiencing us. Or inspires healing, if they feel fear, and this is their step on the path toward joy.

Remember to eat, drink, rest and to experience ample regular episodes of joy.

 

What is your joy?

1.  Find it.  2.  Do it!   3.  Administer it in regular doses! 😀

 

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