Crying is great as it is a wonderful health tool. It is when we can release negative/bad/old energy from ourselves, in safety from adverse effects. My attitude to it is pragmatic and without judgment, in recognition that is a naturally useful human thing to do.
It is excellent when we can feel deeply into our emotion, to express as much ‘junk’ energy as possible. Our crying action prevents our head from suffering too much pressure and heat, than our brain can tolerate. Our energy rises so that a reaction is made possible – if not unavoidable! Our throat chakra is for our personal expression – our true expression of who we are – so it makes sense that our energy aims to involve this area of us. Our head has openings where we can release this energy through our breath and our sound.
If you feel the need to cry, go as deeply into as you can. What other ‘stuff’ from ‘whenever’ can you clear at the same time? Our release mechanism does not discriminate you see – grief energy, grief sound, grief sound vibration – everything of the equivalent degree of pain that has built up, will release in that given time.
In fact, you cannot be certain that you have released all that issue, but a little bit of another one, with some of that one remaining. All the more reason to revisit a cry, to get more of it out of you!
If you feel the need to cry at a time that just is not socially convenient, just take a ‘rain check’ and get back to it at a convenient time. It is nice to have complete privacy, or maybe you prefer to do it with a friend who is also releasing at the same time, or perhaps is in a supporting role for you.
Set aside some time for yourself to cry, and free yourself for this. Turn off gadgets, put the radio on if you have close neighbors, so you feel less bothered of being overheard. Set a time frame for your release. Maybe setting an alarm for your chosen time of 15 minutes, is perfect if kids or partner are due home soon.
Find yourself a comfortable space, and visit within yourself to find the beginnings of that crying feeling. Remind yourself of the events, go back into the story, as you plan to let it all out. Feel safe to do so. Feel empowered to do so.
See if you can reach as deeply into it as before. Can you make it deeper still, getting a stronger feeling to cry? Try breathing more deeply, or from a deeper place within you, to allow for a bigger exhale to bring forth more energy from you.
It is old energy needing to leave and we feel for a purpose always.
Never do we feel the need to cry, that it is irrelevant to our energy/us. And, never is feeling like crying unimportant or wrong. It is always when we are reading ourselves correctly, that something has caused an energy reaction in our body, that requires attention.
We take time to toilet, to remove waste. Taking time to cry also removes waste… Not ‘waste’ as is in it was a ‘waste of a thing to do’ or a ‘waste of time’ to feel, but that now it is in need of being discarded, or given the respect it needs to leave us.
We are allowed in society to take time to toilet, we are even given special spaces and privacy, not to mention some fancy inventions.;) Not yet so is crying so commonly recognized and accepted, as people themselves are uncomfortable with the way it causes them to feel, so better it just doesn’t happen near them.
Some people still pride themselves on never crying, others fear people who cry easily and too often. Really our life is about managing ourselves moment to moment, and living as Present in the moment as you can. Having judgments of past or future cryings is irrelevant to your life. What is relevant is knowing how to manage your own energy in every moment.
Sure in this day and age crying it is tricky to do anywhere, but also in this day and age we are finding more to make us want to cry.
We are still human beings however, and in no ‘day and age’ do we ever stop needing to know how to manage ourselves. In every ‘day and age’ we still need to know how to be Human. Unfortunately we are needing to be reminded how, and this is why I am so passionate about my Being Human Essentials education series.
Tears cool the face. Our head houses the home base of all our nerves and when we feel energy rising at pressure from emotions being activated, and giving us strong reactions, our tears allow us to transition this energy carefully from ourselves.
Sometimes tears are not required, but an open mouth will allow the energy to be released before pressure reaches the head. Wailing is a brilliant custom that is common at grief gathering events in some cultures. What a perfect way for people to commune together, supporting one another, for their joint release. Their combined energy holds a secure space for the optimal amount of grief energy to be released from each participant, maintaining a community in greater health also.
We must be reminded that the English language group – the language I am communicating to you in – is a culture that frowned upon the expression of human feelings. It was made socially unacceptable historically to react naturally in anyway, to anything, at anytime!;) This stemmed from ignorance and fear, and then fear that they would seem ignorant!
The reason the English language has spread across our planet so, is due historically to Britain’s efforts to assist her Human health, poverty, and population problems .
It is also the reason our entire planet is now suffering these same problems. The problem has spread – it was never solved – and it was caused by ignorance of not knowing how to be a Human Being.
Finding time to cry – or just to release the yelling/screaming energy before it rises to your head extremity, is just effective and responsible energetic management that is essential to being a Human Being.
After your ‘cry time’ or your ‘release time’ or your ‘grief management time’, do something celebratory that lifts you an brings your energy to a happy place.
Your energy now does need to re-settle and find it’s new equilibrium as you are now altered. I can feel a very dramatic difference always and a huge smile spreads across my face as I feel my new lightness. With closed eyes I can see brilliant white – sometimes a firey yellow edge to it ‘cracking’ down into me like lightning.
And afterwards…change that radio music to your favorite song and then dance, dance, dance!!! : )