Being invited to ask questions on a subject is one thing, but otherwise, we humans are not designed to be directing another’s consciousness around at all.
We humans are not designed to have our consciousness being told what to focus on, and what to think about, by another human, as we contain all our own programming for our lives ahead.
We are meant to be going where WE are meant to be going, in respect of each other, on our own separate path/journey.
Yet, this is precisely what happens, when we question another on what thought is going on inside OUR head. Commonly these days, this ‘lost’ questioning habit replaces all other forms of communication, and for some years now I have considered it like a game of verbal ‘table tennis’ often taking place when two humans sit across form one another at a table!
Thoughts of others when not requested or invited, can be distracting, irrelevant and completely unnecessary mind clutter.
(This is separate from sharing of what ‘comes to mind’ and for authenticity and ‘being heard’, and these are valid for our path. I am talking here, specifically about questioning one another backwards and forwards, as though we are reduced in each other’s own minds to nothing more than magazines to flick through getting all manner of facts and answers at each other’s whim. We are SO much more…)
Try this! If you do really need or want to know something, ask in a manner such as:
“Would you mind sharing ————?” Or
“I’d be honored if you feel to share ————–”
This way, makes it known to another you would like to know, but leaves it entirely to the discretion of your ‘target’.
This way, IS completely respectful of where they are at on their path.
This way, information tends to ‘come to mind’, with an ease that does not engage an active retrieval process, and so requires less energy.
Try upping the respect levels this way and see what happens!
It is never a mistake in any human relating situation, to raise the respect standards……..which also has the lovely affect of instantly raising the consciousness standards! : )