The common question : “How Are You?” Is it working for us?

It doesn’t make sense for a start! : ) I consider it is a major language error, given the extent of its use, the reason for language, and for what is attainable by us.   This is a thorough exam, with alternative suggestions!

It is  a question, that reduces  or completely separates us, from a state of ‘connection with all that is’.    It does not encourage, assist or enhance personal growth at all. 

It accurately could be called ‘the question of the unconscious’!   It is used as a learned enquiry into someone’s health, but really it is a demand.   It is telling someone what to say next, to explain themselves to you, and directing their consciousness on what to think.

What a developed consciousness feels is a ‘oneness’ with all other matter, and a lack of a vibrational ‘end’ between oneself and anything else, as everything that exists is vibrating.

In this state of oneness everything is felt, you are part of the ‘all’ of matter, and there is no ‘separate’ in existence for you at all. 

It is not possible in this state of heightened awareness – that is attainable by all – to decipher “How you are?”  as in this context, this question loses all relevance, and doesn’t even apply. 

 This state of ‘oneness’ is also where all senses and pleasures are heightened andwhere blissfulness is the reliable norm, so it is not something that you want to leave in a hurry……if at all.

To Be in the Present Moment is not a place from which it is possible to consider the question How Are You?

It may seem or feel like you are doing a kind and considerate thing  – as it is what you have been taught. 

But, to be reduced to need to explain yourself at speed in a grocery queue, to someone you do not know and may never see again, with a long line of people behind you??!    This does not validate you, or  your feelings! : )

To answer it truthfully and meaningfully does not fit this setting at all.   Imagine

“Thank you for asking, I am feeling hurried at the moment when I would really love to feel in a blissful state of oneness with the people in this queue;)” Or “Thank you, I am not feeling like I would most want to be feeling as I have a problem with the neighbours, so it is not as restful for me at home as I would like.  Frank was made redundant at work so finances are a bit of a struggle and Louise needs more textbooks for the seminar special study course which is causing us challenges..  how are you?”   You can see the shop worker’s eyebrows raising as really they have just been told to ask you as part of the continued misunderstanding of the appropriatness of the question to us.  Really they are just wanting to do their job, and wish you would finish so they can serve the next person, or get their lunch break!!

What about  just a change of a couple of words to make a non question:  “I hope you are well!”  Can you feel the difference?

It would be easier all round to give one another a greeting that fit the situation, than to ask them How Are You?

I go as far as say it is detrimental to a developing  consciousness, to be asking this regularly, and counter-productive to an attainment of a better understanding of life, what you are, and of the way your human life works.  All of these are a natural result of being in the present moment.

The state of attainment of serenity and bliss from feeling a ‘oneness’ with ‘all that is’ is the natural state for us.  This is simply the result for us when we learn to ‘drive’ ourselves, or how to Be ourselves.

Historically , I believe it is a question that began from ignorance,(ignorance;without knowledge) within developing society.

I believe it increased in popularity, with the increase in a ‘class’ structure, and when being able to ‘question’ someone at all, was a distinction of where you fit in the ‘ranks’ and how many subordinates (those beneath you) you had. 

Do not question me!” “Who do you think you are to question me?!”   were methods of control used, and who you could, and could not question, a mark of social rank.   To be able to ask questions freely of those in your rank/class – without reprimand – would have felt acceptable, camaraderic and even bonding experiences.

Let’s break it down:

“How”    Few fully understand what they are, so that alone is enough to make imagining ‘how’  impossible.;)  ‘How’ is to explain oneself, and to answer that literally, would be to explain the entire process of you manifesting in the physical and I haven’t been able to do that in one blog yet…;)

“are”     The verb “to be”.   ‘Being’ requires knowledge of what one is, in order they might  Be it, so ‘same as above’;)

“you”    Again requiring knowledge of what one is, knowing what is the ‘you’ or ‘me’, and what separates us. Also what joins us, and knowledge of when we are separate, and when are we one again.

The answer to this is a long explanation, and not in any way, shape, or form, ‘a greeting’.  It is a philosophical request, of a very personal nature, literally meaning ‘how did you manifest into this time and space to be before me’.

Do you really mean to ask this?  Do you want really to be questioning anyone when you meet or greet them?  What about a return to a real greeting of a gift of energy?  In most other languages greetings continue to be used.

In Australia I find “How are ya?”or “How ya going?”  has all but replaced a greeting of any kind. 

The “good day/morning/evening” was considered too British and a desire to be more relaxed and casual caused it to be dropped, and to keep just the second part – the enquiry into someone’s wellbeing.  Energetically though, this removed the greeting altogether.

So ‘How are you?’  is not really a greeting at all, but an enquiry. 

I best describe it as ‘a demand’ or a request to ‘explain yourself” to whoever wants to know! 

Suddenly you are expected to give them your full attention, and to have them direct your consciousness to wherever they direct it, like it is a piece of toffee on their stick.;)

Or, that your vastness, memory files, and complete storage of all that you are in your life so far, is no more than a magazine to be flicked through at their leisure!;)

It was never an appropriate enquiry, more an attempt as ‘seeming to care’ as it became more popularized and commercialized.   With loved ones, it still remains appropriate when time and setting allow for truth.

In Australia, common responses to it are ‘”Good.” ; “Good, howsyerself Good?” and “S’all Good” (It is all good). 

Considering a large % of the population is on medication for depression but still responds “Good”, demonstrates  that this verbal expression stays at the ”mind level’ rather than being a truth. 

It is not helpful to a situation of deteriorating/declining happiness to make irrelevant the very creative building blocks that words are, for us, when used as they are intended.

I also feel it is unkind, to use this enquiry so freely in an impersonal, commercial setting. 

There are people commonly now, who are dealing with bad feelings, and coping well, and to have their consciousness brought back suddenly without their choosing, to be reminded that prehaps they are not really the happiest at the moment, but not wanting anyone to know, or not wanting to feel it again for themselves – only leads to further disconnection from their own truth, and thus widens the gap from themselves and the chance to heal it.

Not using words in truth, maintains the status quo, contributes to it, assists your slide downhill, and definitely does nothing to assist it.;)

When words are said from the mind only –  as in mind, mouth, mind, mouth, mind, mouth’  – at no time, does it ever touch or connect with our true self. 

As an energy being, our centre, is located in our heart chakra, and is positioned approximately at the bottom of our ‘sternum’ – end of mid ribcage, for us.

It is the centre, as the chakra above our heads – that can not be seen by most human eyes –  is included, in this division.

When someone slows down their answer, taking a breath,  energetically their own consciousness includes the lower chakras. 

When someone answers more slowly, on their breath, the rest of theirself – without any knowledge of them/their names/the point , needing to be brought to conscious awareness, of the vessel of the forthcoming phrase. – automatically is connected and ‘driven’ right!

A variation of “How is your day?” understandably may have seemed to have been a correction of kinds, to a more caring, more modern approach, a ‘bigger ask’ even.  It does exactly the same removal from ‘the moment’ as the original. 

To leave the moment – where a developed consciousness is – to assess the entire day, though you are still in it, is not actually something that a human being need be doing, is not something that is healthy for a human being to be doing, and I am sure it is not even a natural human behaviour at all!

It is most likely a ‘construct’, imagined behaviour or ‘culture created from a loungeroom’  which is what  I began to call such behaviours some years ago.;))

I like to be in a nonthinking or Zen state whenever I can, as LIFE IS INCREDIBLE like that.  It is like being on the best drug without any side effects.  Colours are brighter, everything comes so close to my eyes it is like I can touch things that are miles away….all senses are heightened to the max.

Sharing ‘what is brought to mind’ from a zen or non-thinking state is completely possible, but accessing information, requires we turn the mind on, and this is what is necessary to answer a question.  The mind is ‘activated’ or turned ‘on’ ,when we need to access information, from ‘storage’ within us.

When I hear “how are ya?”  I interpret it within, as a greeting, and I lead or respond with a good morning/afternoon/evening or hello/heh etc. 

Greetings as understood as a gift of energy are wonderful.  Why do we wanting to make demands of one another?  Greeting with a gift rather than a demand/drain/requirement of energy, then allows for a restful sharing of what comes to mind for any or either or no one.

It begins a more natural way of relating.

It encourages a natural ‘bringing to mind’ from another’s sharing, that their presence enables you to experience.  You are given opportunity to express this natural verbal sharing, thus creating your reality, as the mirrors for this that you are for oneanother.

I guarantee that you will receive what is uppermost in this other person to share with you, specifically.  If they need to share ‘how they are doing with something’ you will hear it! : )

Gifts of energy greetings  come naturally when we meet friends, lovers. partners and kin, as we have an interest in keeping them vibrationally ‘up’ as that strengthens them and us.  We are strong when they are strong and well.  It is easier to see the relation that we have to oneanothers vibration when we break it done like this.

  So, you are meeting another human/energy being in the street.  The following are examples of ‘greetings’ that are gifts of energy. 

The experience becomes a mutually energizing exchange this way.  None are questions, demands, or reducers of energy.

Try following this method, and notice the changes in your own energy and feelings of those you meet. 

 Smile – the face shows it sees a delight (an ‘energy raiser’)  Nod your head perhaps, what else happens to your body as your energy moves?  Speak what comes to mind for you – a ‘sharing’ – from the presence/energy of this being/other.

 Remember to breathe down inside your solar plexus/diaphragm prior to speech, to assist you in connecting with yourself and what is true for you at that time – otherwise called ‘your Truth”.

Examples of greetings using the English language follow, but if your own comes to you, it does so for a reason.  These are only to give you an idea :

 A joyous day to you Madam!  ; A glorious day to you Sir! ; Good morning/afternoon/evening!  ;   Hello! ;   Hey! ;    Good to see you! ;  You look lovely this sunny morning! ;   Wow you look great! ;    I am so glad to see you! ;  Lovely to see you! ;   Gorgeous day! ;   Meeting you always makes me smile! ;  You put a smile on my face! ;   I feel great to see you! ;   A sunny day to you whatever the weather! ; Feels good to see you! ;   It feels great to be in your energy again! *;   I feel good when I feel you! ;   It feels great to be around you/near you! ;   Heh, here we are again! ;   We are together again! ;  Great to be back in your energy *! ;   Great to reconnect (with you)!*;   This feel great! ;   Wonderful to be with you! ;   etc 

(* personal favourites)

Then share what comes to mind, if something does.  Do not feel the need to ‘talk for the sake of talking’ as this is belittling in the extreme, to what it is that you are. Try “I feel to share…”

1. Two energy beings (human beings) meet in the street, they make vibrational demands on oneanother’s time and energy, then part.

2. Two energy beings (human beings) meet in the street, they strengthen one another form their meeting.

Which do you do?  Which is it going to be? : )

I would love to hear any feedback to any changes you notice!  : ) 

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About ameliapinter

Lover of life, love, joy and music and all that brings clarity to a planet in need. I was born into a living hell, where I was not allowed to speak -even to learn how- and I needed to employ military survival tactics as a toddler just to get around the house unharmed.;) I was forced to figure out life, or I was not going to survive, and I did so with completely unbiased eyes, as I could trust nothing that I was told by family who intended me harm. Figuring out what had caused my mother to not possess any natural maternal instinct, enabled me much insight. I wanted to be the best Human Being I could Be, and I wanted to know how. I ran away at 5 years old, but had no where to go, so I returned in secret, and stuck it out. I lived within her ignorant ways, while secretly studying what life was really all about...I saw my life was only a microcosm of what was happening large scale across the globe, inspiring me to share what I know. : ) Author, Philosopher, Transformative educator, Self Mastery educator, Empath, Healer, Singer & Musician. I am particularly interested in all languages, history, bringing an understanding t,o and mastery of, our feelings and thoughts; helping people attain inner peace to maximize their life experience; healthy sexual expression, development of consciousness, and in so doing, bringing a balance of our true selves operating in harmony on earth. I can provide the answers, my life has given me this. Many Blessings : )

2 responses to “The common question : “How Are You?” Is it working for us?

  1. Whoa, whoa, get out the way with that good infroamtion.

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